Work-Life Balance in India vs Abroad – What NRIs Should Know ⚖️

Hello folks! Mani here. Remember me? The guy who moved back to India thinking work hours would be the same as Silicon Valley.

I was so wrong.

My first week back in 2017, I packed up my laptop at 5 pm.

Everyone stared at me like I had committed a crime.

My manager asked if there was a “family emergency.”

I said, “No, it’s 5 pm.”

He looked confused. I looked confused.

The cleaning staff looked amused.

Let me share what I’ve learned about work-life balance since that awkward moment.

The Reality of Working Hours 🕒

Working hours vary dramatically. I learned this through painful schedule conflicts.

Aspect	USA/Europe	India	Middle East
Typical Office Hours	9am-5pm strict	10am-7pm fluid	8am-6pm with break
Average Weekly Hours	40-45 hours	50-55 hours	45-50 hours
Overtime Expectation	Usually compensated	Often expected	Varies by company

My first month back, I scheduled a dinner at 6:30 pm. Had to cancel four times. Nobody leaves at 6 pm. Nobody.

I eventually learned to schedule important things after 8 pm. Because leaving at 7 pm sometimes gets you the “half day?” joke from colleagues.

The Meeting Culture Difference 📅

Meeting norms differ significantly. I failed to understand this initially.

Meeting Aspect	Western Approach	Indian Reality	My Experience
Scheduling	Strict calendar blocks	Fluid, often last-minute	Had 9 pm calls my first month
Weekend Meetings	Rare, emergency only	Occasionally normal	Got Saturday call while at movie
Saying No	Acceptable with reason	Often perceived negatively	Learned to say “prior commitment”

I once declined a 9:30 pm call. The client was shocked. My manager suggested I “be more flexible.”

I now keep my evenings flexible and schedule personal commitments that truly matter well in advance.

Sometimes I still hide in the bathroom to avoid last-minute meetings. Not my proudest strategy.

The Vacation Reality Check 🏖️

Vacation expectations surprised me most. I came from unlimited PTO culture.

Vacation Element	USA/Europe	India	Gulf Countries
Annual Leave Days	15-25 days + holidays	15-20 days including holidays	20-30 days + holidays
Taking Full Weeks	Common, encouraged	Often broken into shorter periods	Common but advance notice
Connectivity During Leave	Generally disconnected	Often partially connected	Expected check-ins

I planned a two-week Thailand trip my first year back. My manager asked if I could “check emails each morning.”

I thought he was joking. He was not.

I’ve since learned the art of the long weekend rather than extended vacations. And strategic “poor reception” messages when truly away.

The Digital Leash Length 📱

Work communication expectations vary dramatically across cultures.

Communication	Western Standard	Indian Expectation	My Adaptation
After-Hours Calls	Generally emergency only	Often considered normal	Started silencing phone after 10pm
Weekend Messages	Minimal expectation	Responses often expected	Learned delayed response tactics
Vacation Contact	Typically minimal	Check-ins often expected	Set up “limited connectivity” auto-replies

My first month back, I got WhatsApp messages at 11 pm asking for “quick updates.”

I thought there was an emergency. There wasn’t. Just normal work questions at abnormal hours.

I now have separate work and personal phones. The work phone mysteriously “runs out of battery” after 9 pm some days.

The Commute Factor 🚗

Commute impacts work-life balance dramatically. I underestimated this factor.

Commute Aspect	USA/Europe	India	Australia
Average Time	30-45 minutes each way	60-90 minutes each way	45-60 minutes each way
Traffic Predictability	Generally predictable	Highly unpredictable	Moderately predictable
Work During Commute	Usually not expected	Often expected	Generally not expected

My US commute was 20 minutes of podcast time. My Bangalore commute became 2 hours of existential crisis daily.

I didn’t factor this into my work-life calculations. The 2-hour commute after a 10-hour workday left me with just enough energy to complain about it on social media.

Eventually moved closer to office. Paid higher rent. Worth every rupee for those precious hours of life reclaimed.

The Household Support System 🏠

Domestic help availability dramatically affects work-life balance. This was my positive surprise.

Support System	USA/Europe	India	Singapore
Household Help	Expensive, limited	Affordable, widely available	Available but costly
Cost (Monthly)	$200-500 per week	₹15,000-25,000 per month	S$700-1,200 per month
Childcare	$1,000-2,000 monthly	₹10,000-20,000 monthly	S$1,000-2,000 monthly

In California, I did my own laundry, cooking, and cleaning.

In Bangalore, I have help. This actually improves work-life balance significantly.

I once calculated the time saved: approximately 15 hours weekly. That’s almost two workdays reclaimed for family or personal time.

This is one area where India offers a significant quality of life advantage for professionals.

Mental Health Perception 🧠

Mental health approaches differ vastly. This affected my work-life boundaries.

Aspect	Western Approach	Indian Approach	My Learning Curve
Stress Discussion	Increasingly open	Often still taboo	Learned to use different language
Mental Health Days	Becoming normalized	Concept still emerging	Started calling them “sick days”
Burnout Recognition	Growing awareness	Limited recognition	Found subtle ways to discuss

I mentioned feeling “burned out” in my third month. My manager suggested a vitamin supplement.

I wasn’t lacking vitamins. I was lacking boundaries.

I’ve since learned to protect my mental health without necessarily using that terminology. “Family commitments” gets more respect than “I need a mental break.”

Remote Work Flexibility 💻

Remote work acceptance varies dramatically post-pandemic.

Remote Work	USA/Europe	India	Australia
Full Remote	Widely available	Growing but limited	Increasingly common
Hybrid Models	Standard in many companies	Becoming common	Widely accepted
Work From Home Perception	Productivity focused	Often presence focused	Balance focused

In Silicon Valley, nobody cared where I worked if results happened.

In Bangalore initially, physical presence was often equated with productivity.

Post-pandemic, this has improved. But “working from home” is still sometimes viewed with subtle suspicion.

I once had a manager who would randomly call just to check if I was actually working. Started keeping coffee shop background noise audio just for these calls.

The Family Expectation Factor 👪

Family responsibilities vary culturally. This affects available personal time.

Family Aspect	Western Expectation	Indian Expectation	My Experience
Extended Family Obligations	Limited, occasional	Regular, significant	Underestimated time requirement
Family Event Attendance	Selective participation	Broader participation expected	Missed important meeting for cousin’s engagement
Caring Responsibilities	More institutional support	More family-based support	Became part-time elder caregiver

In America, I saw my extended family maybe twice yearly.

In India, family obligations require significant time. Weddings, ceremonies, hospital visits, regular check-ins.

I once had to explain to my US colleagues why I needed three days off for a cousin’s wedding. They couldn’t understand why one day wasn’t enough.

These obligations bring joy but require time management I hadn’t factored into my return plans.

Final Thoughts From a Work-Life Balance Survivor 🧠

Work-life balance in India is different, not necessarily worse. I failed to understand this initially.

I went from frustration to adaptation. Eventually. After enough calendar conflicts to fill a management case study on “what not to schedule.”

Set boundaries early. Be firm but diplomatic. Find company culture that aligns with your values.

And remember: In India, work-life balance often means integration rather than separation. Unlike my initial approach of trying to build impenetrable walls between the two.

Got questions about adapting to Indian work-life expectations? Drop them in comments. My boundary failures are your adaptation shortcuts.

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Sources and Helpful Links:

1. Mercer Global Work-Life Balance Index: https://www.mercer.com/our-thinking/global-talent-trends.html
2. OECD Better Life Index: https://www.oecdbetterlifeindex.org/topics/work-life-balance/
3. LinkedIn Global Talent Trends: https://business.linkedin.com/talent-solutions/global-talent-trends
4. World Economic Forum Future of Work Report: https://www.weforum.org/reports/the-future-of-jobs-report-2023/
5. Back to India Movement Work-Life Survey: https://backtoindia.com/work-life-survey
6. Harvard Business Review Global Work-Life Research: https://hbr.org/topic/work-life-balance